We often forget that we human , not robots.
Pain is a pain when you feel it .Drugging yourself to sleep, keeping busy & hoping the pain will go away is not good. One way or the other you will have to deal with it.I still say , feel it, don’t ignore it.
Deal with it, don’t bury it
One of the reasons why we keep holding on to what we had, yes HAD meaning , you’ve been there , got the experience & now you wiser & stronger.
You will never forget what you had, don’t fool yourself , instead you deal with it. Don’t let anyone stand and tell you I know how you feel , Scratch that! Only you can feel & understand that pain. If you feel like lamenting , do it, if finishing the entire bowl of ice cream makes you feel better to do it , not sure about finishing that bottle of wine, though , it might have some after effects.
Now to the big question , How do you deal with it?
#No1 :Learn to accept what you can’t change : You never imagined at any given time the pain that you’ve felt , the truth is life is unpredictable , what seem to be working today , might not necessarily work tomorrow .
#No2 : Face it: If you think not talking about it will make it go away , think again. You would rather face it now , than later.
#No3: Stop with the how , why , when … chances are you will never get answers
#No4: Allow yourself time : You need time to think , to heal , to take in everything you experienced. “Avoid rushing into anything that will lead you back to that pain.
#No5: Get Over It: When all is said and done, make a decision, remind yourself that you are enough as you are. Don’t allow yourself to be a victim of pain, you felt it, cried about it & talked about it, now make a decision to let it go.
#No6 Invest in yourself : Do things that you love the most, appreciate life and every opportunity that comes with it.
#No7 Be Happy: No one is capable of making you happy if you aren’t happy with yourself , love yourself, spoil yourself, enjoy time with yourself & take care of yourself and your health.
#No8: Don’t Stop Praying
You are Worth It After-all
Real Talk With Nthabi